What makes separation so hard?

  • You may not know yet whether the relationship will end.
  • Living arrangements, money, and kids can all be in flux.
  • Friends and family may not know what to say.

What helps day to day?

  • Agree on simple ground rules for contact, money, and kids.
  • Keep your sleep, meals, and work routine as normal as you can.
  • Choose one or two people to confide in, not everyone.
  • Write down your questions and feelings before big conversations.
  • Schedule time that is just for you each week.

Frequently asked questions

Is a separation the same as a divorce?

No. A separation is time apart that may lead to reconciliation or divorce. A legal separation has specific rules that vary by state.

Should I date during a separation?

Most experts suggest waiting until you are clearer about the relationship and your own feelings.

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