Why can't you stop thinking about them?

  • Your brain is used to them being part of your day.
  • Unanswered questions about the breakup keep the loop running.
  • Quiet moments, like bedtime, are when the thoughts get loudest.

What actually helps?

  • Remove triggers: archive photos, mute accounts, change the playlist.
  • Write a short list of why it ended and reread it when you romanticize the past.
  • Fill your old "us" time slots with plans, calls, or activities.
  • Set a 10 minute window each day to think about it, then move on.
  • Say it out loud to someone. Thoughts shrink when they are shared.
  • Limit checking their social media. Every check restarts the loop.

Frequently asked questions

Is it normal to think about my ex every day?

Yes, especially in the first months. It usually becomes less frequent as your routines change.

Does no contact help you stop thinking about an ex?

For most people, yes. Less contact means fewer triggers and less reason to replay the relationship.